Nigerian Men…The Good, The Bad, The Ugly!

Bold, brash, infuriating, funny, crafty, big-hearted, double-dealing, sexy, crazy, loving…take your pick! All these adjectives (and more) describe the quintessential Nigerian man. A lot has been said about him…some good, some not so good. There’s the belief that Nigerian mothers raise their daughters and spoil their sons…too true. From the time he comes screaming from her into the world and all rejoice that “it’s a boy! ” he is doted and waited on hand and foot by the female folk in the family…whether mothers, sisters, aunties and their girlfriends/wives are expected to pick up from there. How many a little girl have had to wash dishes and when asked if Junior can join her, have been told “No! Because he is a boy!” How many a heart has been broken by those brown, twinkly eyes and wicked, dimpled grin? The countless “I’m sorry, I’ll never do it again” to the “It wasn’t my fault, she tricked me…into getting her pregnant!” Nigerian men are as different as they come but there are some characteristics that stand out, are constant and trail him wherever he goes.

HE IS HARDWORKING…Compared to his counterparts in Diaspora, the Nigerian man is a natural hustler. Whether its at his fancy bank job in V.I. or watch-peddling in the Traffic, he works hard for his money. Not for him the queuing at the Giro office or sitting on the sidewalk, swigging from a bottle of booze, hollering at sistas. Even if he does that you can be sure he has finished work and is just kidding around, which brings me to the next characteristic…

HE PLAYS HARD….what’s all that hard work for if you don’t get to spend the proceeds? He LURVES to groove…whether its at the Club or the open air pepper soup joint at Obalende! He loves to enjoy himself …and invite others to enjoy it with him. There’s always some house-warming, Child Dedication, Birthday or new item to “wash” which leads me to the fact that…

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HE LOVES THE GOOD THINGS OF LIFE…just drive through Lagos or any of the other major cities in Nigeria and check out the flashy cars, fancy homes and hot night spots. The Nigerian man (along with his woman) likes to enjoy the good things of life. He’s got to have the flashiest car, the finest girl, the biggest house. If he’s got the dough, he flaunts it (and wants you to know he is flaunting it too!) and God help those of other Nationalities when he is on the roll! On the downside, this has led many into a life of crime.

Another characteristic of the Nigerian man is that HIS LOVE FOR WOMEN! That the Nigerian man loves women can not be disputed. No race, colour or hue is off limits. Not too many years ago, the winner of Miss Norway Beauty Contest was a half-caste with the distinctively Nigerian name of my forebears. When asked about her origins, she said her mother was Norwegian but unfortunately she had never met her father before. Talk about sowing your wild oats! I’ve seen children that are half-Filipino and half-Nigerian! Half-Malaysian and even half-Indian! How he managed to convince the latter I will never know because Indians hardly ever marry outside their race! But trust my Bros! No woman is too hard to toast! Once he makes up his mind, he goes after her with a single-mindedness of a soldier on a special mission. Who can resist his charms?Which brings me to the next characteristic…

HIS “SWEET MOUTH”! How many times have you my sisters, sworn that you were going to “brain” that boyfriend of yours when you catch him in yet another escapade, only for him to turn up with an innocent-looking face, weaving his fabricated story of how he tripped and fell on his Aunt who happened to be wearing red lipstick, so that’s how the mark got on his shirt! You know he’s lying and sweet-talking you but you allow yourself (after initially raking) to soften and smile at his smooth flattery and corny jokes.E.g. “Mamarazzy-mamazita!The only woman wey fit turn Urhobo man to flying boat!No one but you!Every other woman is a counterfeit!” and you accept him, after all, you are too young to die of hypertension!This leads to yet another characteristic…

HE IS FINE

There is no denying it…Nigerian men are fine. Compare him to men from other nationalities. Is it the “yellow” ones from the East or the Caramel ones from the West? Or the dark chocolate from the North? Sure, there are some that are more “fearfully than wonderfully made” but generally our boys are fine!

And last but not the least…

 

He LOVES GOOD FOOD

That his woman should know how to cook should not even be up for negotiation. Recently, I was at a get together in Abuja for a group of African–Americans that had completed a project and were on their way back to the U.S. They were going on about how warm and hospitable the people were and the women among them (like true Americans!) said they wouldn’t mind getting married to Nigerians and would like to be hooked up! Well, a crazy colleague of mine decide to take on the role of match-maker and started asking for their likes, preferences etc. As they were giving it one by one amidst much laughter, one of them dropped the bombshell that she couldn’t cook.You could have heard a pin drop! The whole room went quiet. That, I can tell you, put paid to her “Nigerian-husband” ambition.

Overall, the Nigerian man may have his flaws (who doesn’t?) but love him or hate him, he is who he is…and if the truth be told many of us Nigerian women wouldn’t have him any other way…save for a little tweaking here and there!

BY BOLANLE ADUWO

She’s pregnant! Tennis star Serena Williams shows off her bump!

Serena Williams is pregnant with her first baby.

The tennis star, 35, made the announcement on Wednesday where she showed off her pregnant belly on Snapchat.

Williams wore a yellow swimsuit and said she was 20 weeks along.

The athlete is engaged to Reddit co-founder Alexis Ohanian, 33.

She's pregnant! Tennis star Serena Williams showed off her bump on Wednesday as she revealed is 20 weeks along with her fiance Alexis Ohanian's baby 

20 weeks’ the 35-year-old wrote on her Snapchat along with a photo of her in a yellow monokini.

The lucky guy: The beauty has been engaged to Alexis since December 2016. He proposed with a large diamond ring, which she showed off in January. The couple are pictured last week

Facebook killer’ Steve Stephens found dead after car chase

A man suspected of randomly shooting a grandfather and posting video of it to Facebook has taken his own life.

Police tracked down Steve Stephens after he was spotted by employees at a drive-thru McDonald’s in Pennsylvania, who stalled his order and rang 911.

State police gave chase and the suspect shot himself “as the vehicle was spinning out of control”, police said.

Stephens, 37, shot dead Robert Godwin, 74, as the victim walked home from Easter lunch on Sunday in Cleveland.

The fugitive’s mobile phone signal was last tracked on Sunday afternoon to Erie, 100 miles (160km) from where Mr Godwin was gunned down.

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Pennsylvania State Police said that they had received a tip-off from workers at the fast food chain shortly after 11:00 on Tuesday.

The suspect’s white Ford Fusion car had been spotted in the car park of the McDonald’s in the city of Erie, near a local police headquarters.

Stephens ordered a 20-piece McNuggets meal and a large order of fries, but employees held his fries while they alerted police.

Henry Sayers, the restaurant’s manager, told the New York Times: “He just took his nuggets and said: ‘I have to go’, and he drove off.”

State police pursued him for less than two miles before executing a tactic that involves ramming the rear of a vehicle to make it lose control.

“As the vehicle was spinning out of control from the PIT manoeuvre, Stephens pulled a pistol and shot himself in the head,” Pennsylvania state police said in a statement.

During the encounter there were no injuries to members of the public or officers, and Stephens was pronounced dead at the scene, added Cleveland Police Chief Calvin Williams.

Robert Godwin pictured with his daughter Debbie Godwin on Father's day

Investigators said they were still baffled as to what motivated Stephens – who worked as a case manager for a children’s mental health facility.

Police said earlier on Tuesday that authorities had received more than 400 tips, including as far away as Texas.

Pennsylvania State Police said that they had received a tip-off from an

In other Facebook videos Stephens posted on the day of Mr Godwin’s killing, the suspect said he had “just snapped”, blaming gambling debts and a broken-down relationship among other things.

The family of Mr Godwin – a father of 10 and grandfather of 14 – said on Monday they forgave the suspected killer.

His daughter, Tonya Godwin-Baines, had urged Stephens to surrender.

“Each one of us forgives the killer, the murderer,” she told Cleveland TV station WJW. “We want to wrap our arms around him.”

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“I forgive you and love you, but most importantly, God loves you. God can heal your mind and save your soul.”

The victim’s son, Robert Godwin Jr, said: “Steve, I forgive you… I’m not happy what you did, but I forgive you.”

Cleveland officials had announced a reward of up to $50,000 (£39,000) for information leading to the suspect’s arrest.

Facebook has launched a review of its procedures after criticism that the footage stayed on the site for hours.

On Tuesday at the company’s annual conference in San Jose, California, founder Mark Zuckerberg said: “Our hearts go out to the family and friends of Robert Godwin Snr.

“We have a lot of work to do and we will keep doing all we can to prevent tragedies like this from happening.”

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Whistle blow gets 5% of loot recovered !!!!

The Federal Government has approved payment of not more than five per cent of the recovered loot to any successful whistle blower, who provides relevant information leading to the recovered funds. The Minister of Finance, Mrs Kemi Adeosun, made this known when briefing State House correspondents on the outcome of the Federal Executive Council meeting presided over by President Muhammadu Buhari in Abuja.

She said the council approved a Whistle Blowing policy aimed at consolidating the ongoing anti-corruption campaign embarked upon by the present administration. Adeosun said the policy would soon be supported by a bill already receiving due attention of the National Assembly. Kemi Adeosun According to her, adequate measures are being taken to protect and safe guard the lives and identities of whistle blowers. “If you whistle-blow in public-spirit and in good faith, you will be protected. “If you feel that you have been treated badly because of your report, you can file a formal complaint. “If you have suffered harassment, intimidation or victimisation for sharing your concerns, restitution will be made for any loss suffered.”

CHRIS BROWN & LIL WAYNE TARGETS IN FEDERAL DRUG CASE

According to TMZ, Chris Brown and Lil Wayne are now reportedly targets of a federal drug investigation involving thousands of dollars of narcotics, including lean.

The probe was triggered by a criminal drug trial involving Miami music producer Harrison Garcia who allegedly sent texts to people acknowledging and even bragging he sold drugs to the 2 rappers.

Garcia exchanged texts with an underling to deliver drugs to Wayne, saying, “I’ll shoot u some trees (pot).” Garcia responded, “It’s for Wayne.”

In another text, Gracia sent a screenshot of a $15,000 bank deposit from Chris Brown, saying, “Look who put money my account.” The woman said, “What that for LOL” and he responded with with a couple of smiley faces with the message, “Drugs … lean and sh*t” … this according to the Miami Herald.

A federal agent testified Garcia also told cops he sold Wayne narcotics … “a lot of narcotics.”

Garcia often poses on social media next to exotic cars, bling, expensive sneakers, stacks of cash and guns … and has been photographed with CB and Weezy.

The feds believe he used the drug money to buy those toys.

A Timeline Of T.I. and Tiny’s Marriage: The Good, The Bad and the End

Fans went from rooting for their big happy family to wondering where it all went wrong. Here’s a breakdown of the begnning of the end.

July 2010: They Said “I Do”                                                                         2/9

In the height of the summer, the two swapped sweet vows in a secret courthouse ceremony in Miami Beach.

September 2010: T.I. Runs Into Legal Trouble                                   3/9

When they tied the knot, they did say for better or for worse. T.I. was arrested and jailed on a drug charge and violating terms of his probation. Tiny remained by his side throughout the entire ordeal.