Pregnancy is one of the most hormonal times in a woman’s life. You’re up, down, happy, sad, and … horny? Yup, you read that right! Many women experience a nice, big spike in their sex drives when they’re pregnant. Unfortunately, many women and their partners shy away from sex during pregnancy out of fear, or just because they aren’t sure how to work with that big, round belly.
So, what’s a girl to do when she’s hornier than a Viking’s helmet with a bun in the oven? First, she’s got to realize that there are a number of myths surrounding sex during pregnancy, many of which aren’t true. Let’s take a look at a couple of the most common ones.
Having an orgasm during pregnancy can stimulate pre-term labor.
When a woman has an orgasm, her uterus contracts and a hormone called oxytocin, the hormone responsible for triggering labor contractions, is also released. Because of this, it’s no surprise that many people believe that having an orgasm can trigger pre-term labor, or even a miscarriage. Thankfully, this isn’t the case in healthy pregnancies. In fact, because of the increased blood flow in the pelvic region you may even experience better orgasms than ever before. Don’t pass this up! (And get some tips in The No.1 Secret to Female Orgasm.)
A man’s penis can poke the baby’s head.
Um, no. While he’d probably like to believe that his monstrous member is large enough to reach all the way into your uterus, this is an anatomical impossibility. First of all, while he may bump into your cervix from time to time, the cervix is anywhere from 2.5 to 4.5 centimeters thick. Your baby is also protected on all sides by water and amniotic fluid.
Sperm can reach the fetus.
During a healthy pregnancy, the cervix is sealed by a mucus plug, so there’s no way that ejaculate can enter the uterus. In most cases, this plug stays in place until the pregnancy reaches full term and the early stages of labor begin. Even after you lose the mucus plug, it’s still usually considered safe to have sex, since the fetus is still surrounded by the amniotic sac.
Sex during pregnancy can hurt the mother or the baby.
Sex during all stages of pregnancy is usually safe and rather enjoyable for most women. In fact, unless your doctor advises against it, there’s absolutely no reason why you can’t have sex when pregnant. Just don’t try to get too tricky; the baby’s well protected, but a pregnant body is often less nimble and more susceptible to injury.
As the baby bump grows, however, traditional sex positions can become somewhat uncomfortable for the mother or even dangerous for the fetus. This is no time to get ambitious getting into new positions. In fact, the top sex positions for pregnant women are usually the ones that minimize stress on the abdomen, which can help prevent injury and discomfort. The following sex positions are the safest and most comfortable sex positions by expecting mothers and doctors alike. Enjoy!
Any and All (Gentle) Woman on Top Positions
By positioning themselves on top, women can eliminate any pressure on the baby belly. Not only is this much more comfortable for you, but it’s also considered to be a little safer for your baby. As an added bonus, most woman-on-top positions give women more control and easier access to the clitoris. The cowgirl (shown below) and reverse cowgirl positions are the most common woman-on-top positions, but the rocking horse and yogi positions are also great. A well-placed pillow or supportive piece of sex furniture can also help make things more comfortable for both partners.
The spooning position requires that both partners lie on their sides, with the man’s chest against the woman’s back. This way your partner can thrust into you from behind and massage your clitoris with his fingers or a vibrator. Although this position takes the pressure off of your belly, you may want to stash a few pillows under it for extra support.
Doggy style is one of the most popular sex positions during pregnancy for a number of reasons. First of all, when in a doggy style position, there’s no pressure on your belly. Also, the angle of penetration is better for stimulating the G-spot, and also allows access to the clitoris. However, once your baby belly starts getting bigger, you may find that the weight of your little one hanging down can be a bit much in this position. As an alternative, you can try the leapfrog position, which requires you to support yourself with your forearms on the bed. This will take the weight off your back and enable you to place a few pillows under your belly. As shown below, you can also use props to make sex more comfortable. Feel free to get creative about moving these around as your body and needs change!
The cross sex position is great for pregnant women and their partners because it requires very little effort. To get into this position, have your man lie on his side. You can then lie on your back perpendicular to him, with your legs draped over his waist. Keep in mind, though, that if you have a very large belly, you shouldn’t stay in this position for too long, as it can interfere with the flow of blood and nutrients through placenta.
If you’re looking for a quickie in the kitchen, the tabletop’s the sex position for you! This position requires you to sit on a sturdy, waist-high tabletop or, as shown below, a supportive piece of sex furniture. As your partner thrusts in and out, you can support yourself by leaning back on your arms or wrapping your arms around his neck.
Like the cross, the scissors position requires very little effort on the woman’s part, so it’s a great option if you’re dead tired but still want a romp in the hay. This position requires you to lie on your side and lift your top leg. Your man can then straddle your bottom leg and support you top leg on his shoulder as he thrusts into you. Again, you may also want to place some pillows under your belly for support.
Sometimes you may not be able to have sex when pregnant, or you just might not want to. Don’t rule out a steamy session with your lover, though. Consider getting into the 69 position, either on the top or the bottom, whichever makes you more comfortable. An orgasm feels just as good – and sometimes even better – when it’s a product of oral sex.
Get Down With Your Pregnant Self
There’s not need to cut out sex when you’re pregnant. In fact, many women report having some of the best sex of their lives. Chances are you’ve probably already been banned from a few of life’s other great pleasures, such as wine, coffee, some cheeses and even sushi. Isn’t it nice to know that sex isn’t one of them?