Selecting The Sex of Your Baby

A frequent question I get to respond to in my clinic is –Dr how do I get to select the sex of my baby?.

My usual response to them is to find out if they want the truth or a sensational answer. In some parts of Nigeria, Male babies are preferred to female babies.
This is to ensure that the family name and dynasty is maintained. Some individuals will prefer to have a balance ratio of male to female distribution in their families. There are social and ethical implications of sex selection, but I don’t intend to bore you with the details of this.

My goal in this discussion is to explain the scientific basis of sex determination so you can distinguish what the true answer is from the sensational answer.

The union of the male sex cell (sperm) with the female sex cell (ovum), leads to the formation of a Zygote(future Baby) .Weather the baby will be a male
or female baby depends on the chromosomes carried by the male and female sex cells. The male sex cell (sperm), is solely responsible for sex determination
because it has the capacity to carry X and Y chromosomes. The ovum (egg) can only carry X chromosomes and as such cannot help determine sex.During
formation of a baby, should the male contribute a Y chromosome carrying sperm, the baby will be a boy. On the contrary, if the man contributes an X carrying sperm, the baby becomes a female baby.

The question is, what determines if the male will send an X carrying sperm or a Y carrying sperm?.The answer will depend on if it is a natural conception or an artificial conception.

In natural selection, some researchers believe that the Y chromosome carrying sperm tend to move faster than the X chromosome carrying sperm and as such should intercourse occur just before ovulation, the Y chromosome carrying sperm will be the fastest to cause conception and thus a baby boy will result. The reverse will obviously be the case should intercourse take place immediately after ovulation. This postulation depends on the ability to accurately determine ovulation which is not sacrosanct. Unfortunately this postulation is not scientifically correct and so it is a sensational answer

Varied positions used for sexual intercourse does not help select a particular sex of a baby.

In artificial conception, it is however possible to select the desired sex of a baby by subjecting harvested spermatozoa to flow cytometry and picking out the desired spermatozoa for intrauterine insemination, invitro fertilization or intracytoplasmic sperm injection. This is known as sperm sorting.

In Preimplantation Genetic diagnosis (PGD), sex selection is done by using embryos resulting from IVF procedures and then genetically tested for X or Y chromosomes. The embryos of the desired sex are then implanted. Ethical and moral issues are elicited in this situation, because undesired embryos may have to be discarded.

In conclusion,sex selection in natural conception is a chance event.In artificial conception,it is possible to desire and select a particular sex of baby.

Conducting a Pre-conception Clinic

In the conduction of the pre-conception clinic, women are given standard questionnaires to extract information on personal, family history, social history, past medical and surgical history, history of previous pregnancies. The immunization history of the client is also determined. Relevant blood test and other investigations are also carried out. Women are thereafter counseled on their preparedness or otherwise for pregnancy and are thus able to make informed decisions and plan for pregnancy. Clinic attendance is flexible and tailored to the need of the client. Certain factors will however influence the nature of the Preconception clinic and will include the following:

-The environment

-Prevalence of certain health conditions

-Proximity to the next pregnancy

-Previous experience in previous pregnancies

-Type and use of contraception

-Previous medical conditions

-History of previous surgery

-Genetic makeup of the couple contemplating pregnancy

-Habits such as smoking and alcoholism and drugs of addiction

-Allergic reaction to drugs and or food

-Occupation and nature of Job

Health Issues for the Zygote in the first one week of Life

In the first one week of life, the greatest concern for the zygote is the risk of development of chromosome(al) and genetic abnormalities. This risk is influenced by factors inherent in the genetic makeup of the parents and factors that influence division and multiplication of genes and chromosomes.
Genetic disorder occurs when there is an abnormality with genes and chromosomes.
Genetic disease can occur when there is either a single defective gene or a group of defective genes. A chromosome(al) or genetic disorder can also occur when there is a fault in the number and shape of chromosomes.
A common chromosomal disorder is Down’s syndrome. This occurs when a zygote has 47 chromosomes instead of the usual 46 chromosomes. In this condition, the egg is usually defective because it carries the extra chromosome.
In Down’s syndrome the extra chromosome is sited at the 21st position. Out of every 1,000 babies, one will be born with Down’s syndrome. The risk of occurrence occurring randomly but it is known to be associated with parents with genetic disorders.
Other conditions exist where an extra chromosome is added at different positions in the chromosome pair, they are known as Edward’s and Patau’s Syndrome. They are however rarer than Down’s syndrome.
These chromosome disorders are associated with physical abnormalities and mental retardation. There is increased incidence in mothers of advanced age. The risk factor is about 1 in 350 at age 35 and 1 in 125 at age 45. The incidence in 1 in 75 at age 50years. This should not be a cause of unnecessary worry for mothers of advanced age as even at age 50, out of every 25 women, 24 of the women will still escape chromosomal abnormality. This is not also to encourage late child-bearing as it is obvious that the risk of chromosomal abnormality increases with advanced age.
Another genetic disease of concern in this part of the world is sickle-cell anaemia. This occurs in 1 in 350 Nigerians. There is inheritance of defective heamoglobin from the parents by the baby. This is the commonest genetic disease of black peopleworldwide. When both parents are carrier of the heamoglobin trait that is they have the genotype AS, the risk of having a child with the disease is 25% but 50% when one parent has the disease and the other is a carrier that is SS and AS genotype combination.
It is therefore wise for intending couples to carry out a genotype screen before planning a family. In a situation where a couple carry genetic traits of sickle cell anaemia that will predispose their child to having sickle cell anaemia or a carrier trait, they can be counseled to have pre-implantation genetic diagnosis. This will determine the genotype of the baby before implantation. The couple will however have to resort to assisted reproductive technology to enable them determine the genotype of the baby before implantation. Prior to the use of this technology, chronic villus biopsy which involves obtaining tissue from the placenta of the fetus before 14weeks to determine the genotype was the method used in the determination of Genotype of babies suspected to have sickle cell disease while in-utero (inside the womb). This method has been taken over by pre-implantation genetic diagnosis. Overall, this method is laced about by numerous religious and human rights issues and rightly so!
Other forms of genetic disorders that will be mentioned but not discussed in details on account of their relative rarity in our environment, include Cystic fibrosis, thalassaemia, Tay-Sachs disease and others related to gender such as Hemophilia (a bleeding disorder)
Poor arrangement of chromosomes that are inherited from parents can lead to a condition known as translocation of chromosomes. In translocation the parents are normal but the child becomes abnormal if he receives the chromosome pair that is poorly arranged.
When there is abnormality related to the sex chromosomes (i.e. X and Y), it can lead to defects in sexual development of the baby, infertility and other forms of abnormality. Some example includes a situation where a female baby has only one X chromosome instead of two. This is referred to as Turner’s syndrome.
Male babies may suffer from a condition where they have two or more X chromosomes instead of one, this is referred to as Klinefelter’s syndrome it is associated with male infertility in adulthood.
The aim of this discussion is not to instill fear into you but to raise your awareness on the wide range of abnormalities that can occur early in the development of the baby and the possible risk factors.
But it is important to be reassured that far more babies are born normal rather than abnormal. As a matter of fact, normality is the rule. For babies that have inherent chromosomal and genetic abnormalities, most of these babies will suffer miscarriage and will not progress beyond the first eight-ten weeks of life. Chromosomal and genetic abnormalities are responsible for most causes of miscarriage.

Harmful Habits To Avoid in the First Trimester

Indiscriminate use of prescription drugs can lead to birth defects. It is important that you check with your care giver before you ingest any prescription drug. Abuse of drugs can be harmful. In poor areas of sub-Saharan Africa, individuals are of the habit of indiscriminately using antibiotics because they lack the financial means to visit proper clinics. Some of the antibiotics are not safe for pregnancy, some are however safe for usage.

Herbal preparations are unpredictable. Herbal preparations that the components are not known are particularly notorious because some of them can cause gastrointestinal symptoms such as diarrhea and in some cases miscarriage.

There are however some safe herbal teas that are known to improve in symptoms such as nausea and vomiting. The beauty of these herbal teas is that their constituents are known and documented.

Alcohol intake in significant amounts can increase the risk of miscarriage. It is also associated with birth defects with associated facial abnormalities and abnormalities of the nervous system. Babies born to mothers who are alcoholic can have problem with growth and development and fail to thrive.

Smoking is associated with increased risk of miscarriage by preventing the developing embryo form implanting into the womb (uterus). Smoking also compromises the supply of oxygen to the embryo. Smokers are more at risk of having premature delivery and premature separation of the placenta a condition known as placenta abruption.

The sad aspect of smoking is that does who don’t smoke but are exposed to smoke probably from their husbands and close relatives are also at risk of all these complications mentioned above.

The implication is that if you live with somebody that smokes, you should advice the person to stop smoking or avoid living in the same environment with that person.

Recreational drugs: Recreational drugs are also referred to as hard drugs and include drugs like marijuana, cocaine, heroin ecstasy etc. They are associated with increased complication in pregnancy such as miscarriage, poor growth of the baby, premature delivery and premature separation of the placenta. They cross the placenta and cause damage to the brain of the baby at birth. They are completely discouraged in pregnancy and outside pregnancy. There are other chemical substances or agents in the environment that one should be cautious of. There is however no strong evidence to support or refute any claim to ill effect caused by this chemical substances. The bottom line is that these substances have to be inhaled in considerable amount or the pregnant woman has to be exposed to them for long duration for them to have any significant harmful effect. Some of the substances include vapor from petrol, glue, cleaning fluids, volatile paints, and household aerosols.

Work-place chemicals that are fat soluble such as pesticides, cleaning agents and some adhesives are capable of crossing the placenta and can be harmful to the pregnant woman. They are better avoided.

Exposure to large doses of x-ray radiation can cause harmful effect to the baby during the first trimester. X-rays are generally not encouraged in the first trimester but the doses of x-ray radiation emitted by modern machines are quite small and may not have any significant ill-effect.

Serial ultrasound scans does not have any negative effect on the fetus. Several studies have been done that has so far demonstrated that ultrasound is safe and without complication. The transvaginal probe that is useful in detecting early pregnancy complications is safe and does not cause miscarriage as erroneously thought by some pregnant women.

Exposure to disease causing agents at this stage of development may or may not affect the development of the baby. It depends on the type of organism involved, the severity of the disease process and the immune status of the mother. The common cold is not infrequent in pregnancy and is mostly associated with rhinorrhoea (catarrh/cough) but it is mostly innocuous and does not have any significant negative effect on the developing baby.

Why I Chose Sterilization At 31

In Canada up until recently, there used to be rules in several provinces about when a woman could ask for sterilization. It usually involved her being over 40 years old, married and having had at least one boy and one girl. Just as with abortion, it seems not so long ago that doctors and law-makers believed they knew what was best for women.

I looked these up because two years after having my first and only abortion (I am childless), I decided that I didn’t want to have children at all.

I was 31 years old. Two years later, I am getting the surgery in a few weeks, and I couldn’t be happier.

I remember going to my doctor and telling her I wanted to be sterilized. I am lucky to have a professional, understanding doctor who basically keeps her personal opinion to herself, if she has one. She asked me a few questions: Why? What if I changed my mind? What did my partner think?

Why I’m Getting Sterilized

There are several reasons why I’m getting sterilized. The first one is: I don’t ever want to be pregnant again. The only time I have been pregnant was horrible: all-day nausea, unable to eat anything but crackers and ginger ale, basically stuck in bed for two weeks before my abortion. I was unable to work or to do much more than watch TV and sleep all day.

There is another health concern for me: I have major depressive disorder, and being pregnant would mean not only my having to stop my medication, but also put me at a much greater risk of post-partum depression. This is a chance I am definitely unwilling to take.

Last but not least, I do not want to have to take the pill until I hit menopause. I am a bad candidate for IUDs and IUSs (I have tried), so there are few non-chemical options left to me. Sterilization is, to me, the least harmful solution for my health.

I have other reasons that lie more in the political and ecological realm. (Yes, sterilization can be political!) First, I don’t need to reproduce to ensure the survival of the species. There are enough people on this planet consuming resources, and my not having children will not change that. I also want to affirm the right to do what I want with my body; as a feminist, I choose not to have children, and I act accordingly.

And there are personal reasons too. Yeah, I don’t want to have to take care of a child. I’m not particularly fond of them. I never have been. The kind of life I plan for myself isn’t conducive to having children either. I like my mobility, my freedom and my independence.

What if I change my mind?

Short answer: I’ll adopt.

Long answer: I don’t think I will change my mind, but if I do I will adopt a child. This connects to the political and ecological reasons above: there are enough children in this world already consuming resources. Why should I have one myself? The children already on this planet who need a loving family deserve just as much concern as biological offspring. They are just as deserving of love, and who am I to deny a child a good home?

I would rather adopt a child who’s already here and in need than produce a new one. My mother was adopted. She was raised in a wonderful, loving family and she never cared to look for her biological mother. To her, her adoptive mother is her mother. Blood isn’t a prerequisite for love.

What does my partner think?

Back then, when I actually had one (I’m single now), he didn’t object.

Not that it mattered much to me, to be honest. My body, my choice. My desire to get sterilized stemmed not from not having children from him, but from not having children at all. I merely informed him that I had decided that I did not want to bear children and that I was going to seek sterilization.

I have to say that our relationship was already in dire straits back then, so maybe that was a factor in his non-reaction. But even if it had been better, I don’t think I would have done anything differently.

Although a potential partner’s concerns about wanting children are valid, ultimately, because of all the reasons above, I will not carry children. It is unsafe for me, unsustainable for the planet, and doesn’t fit with the plan I have for my life. If my wanting to maintain my health and choose the life I want is selfish, then selfish you can call me.

It’s a Valid Choice

Choosing sterilization is as valid as choosing to carry a child to term. As a woman, my worth to the world is not defined by my ability to reproduce. Many of the lingering opinions and resistance from people stem from the idea that women aren’t “complete” unless they’ve had children.

I refuse to play this game. I refuse to let society dictate what I can and can’t do with my body. I am a complete and worthy person, with or without offspring.

A Look at Pregnancy and Lactation Fetishes

I often write about fetishes from a first-hand point of view. I am a pretty kinky guy who likes to explore all my fantasies (and my partner’s fantasies, too). I have a kink for both pregnancy and lactation. They both make me feel horny, protective, warm, loving and excited. I remember seeing a woman at a Grateful Dead show in 1995. Her belly was full of child; her breasts were huge and flowing with milk. I remember this woman distinctly because of her glow, curly hair, beauty, and pregnant state. She looked so beautiful. I thought it was one of those fleeting moments when we see an object of our desire that starts and ends with just a glance. Little did I know that I would meet that woman years later and marry her. Pregnancy is a powerful thing that leaves a lasting impression.

Pregnancy and Lactation Fetishes

Pregnancy and lactation are both fetishes that are related. They often form a joint relationship so close that many times, the fetishist may have both fetishes at the same time. It really is a very basic attraction to the pregnant condition and fertility. Something very base and primal awakens in us when we see – or even smell – a pregnant woman. It is arousing to see a fertile female with rounder curves, larger breasts and a swollen belly.

I have heard many women describe how shocked they were when they were getting hit on while pregnant. Often, they might be wearing their most comfy, but least fashionable, clothes. They might not have bathed in a while, and feel like they are bloated and unattractive. Yet, tons of guys were hitting on them – much to their surprise! This primal fertility attraction could be pheromones working their scent magic on our brains. There are theories that the pregnant woman may release pheromones that make her attractive to others. In her vulnerable state, that would lead to protection during a very vulnerable time. It makes sense to further our species if this was true.

Maiesiophilia – Erotic Attraction to Pregnant Women

A pregnancy fetish, or maiesiophilia, is an erotic attraction to pregnant women. It is unlike most other fetishes because of how this particular kink manifests itself. Some people fetishize the various stages of pregnancy. Some fantasize about the actions pregnant women take on a daily basis, such as bathing, getting dressed, shopping, or even sleeping. There are even elements of one particular body part being the focus, especially those parts that change over the time of pregnancy (breasts, navel, tummy). Psychological aspects of pregnancy can also affect the specifics of a pregnancy philia. Surprisingly, nudity and sexual contact is not always a necessary component for the fetishist. The fetish is prevalent in both men and women.

With all of these components, what commonalities does the fetish present? First, it seems very taboo to have sex with a person who is probably in a committed relationship and is preparing for motherhood. There is also a component of time limitation. You can only be pregnant for so long. Last, the changing state of the body is a universal theme that is part of the desire. The morphing body from its shape prior to pregnancy and watching her change and grow over time is one of the primary interests of this fetish. Pregnant women literally exude both the fertility and the power of life. There is something so powerful about this, it resonates an almost God-like quality.

In 1991, actress Demi Moore did a nude photo shot for the cover of Vanity Fair. Nothing like this had been published on the front page of a major magazine before. This caused a stir with the general public, especially pregnancy fetishists, as something powerful. Displaying one of the most famous and beautiful people of that time both pregnant and nude was groundbreaking. This was a huge step forward in pregnancy being seen as something beautiful.

Lactation Fetish

A lactation fetish is one of the most common types of fetish. It is often seen as a penultimate goal for those that engage in breast suckling. The breasts, areolas, and nipples are erogenous zones for both men and women. So, it is very natural to play with them. Some people achieve sexual arousal by taking this to the next level and actually breastfeeding from a lactating woman.

Lactation can occur any time after the fourth month of pregnancy, but a woman does not need to be pregnant to maintain the state of lactation. The practice of wet nurses for women who could not, or would not, breast feed their children was a fairly common practice in the past. Surprisingly, men can also be induced to lactate through the use of electrical currents from a routine of using Transcutaneous Electrical Nerve Stimulation, or a TENS unit, on the male breasts to simulate the suckling of a baby. The current needs to be done multiple times per day over an extended period of time on a regular basis for this to occur. Lactation can also be induced by regular suckling of the breasts in women. The continuous suckling causes prolactin production, which maintains the state of lactation. This also reduces the rate of ovulation, so it becomes more difficult to get pregnant.

Beyond the sexual arousal caused by lactation, there are several pairings of fetish couples that have lactation at the center of their relationships. This can be anything from adult babies, ANR or adult nursing relationships, lactation games during sex, or lesbian couples that both lactate and feed each other.

The act of breastfeeding is a very vulnerable act for women, especially after giving birth. The breasts have been used by a child first and foremost as a nutritive act for her baby, and they may be sore. The mother may be uninterested in sex after all of this for physical and psychological reasons. Needless to say, transferring a lactating breast from a child to a sexual partner shows a great deal of trust, love, and bonding.

More recently, lactation has been used in a variety of unexpected areas. A restaurant in China uses breast milk in cooking. There are also brothels that have sex workers that are lactating as a specialized niche service that gets a fairly high price. Some sex workers also produce breast milk for private consumption.

The sheer variety of sex acts that can be combined with both pregnancy and lactation is mind boggling and much larger than most people realize. Some people would consider this an extreme taboo due to the relationship of pregnancy, lactation, and the feeding of breast milk to infants. This taboo is part of what makes this seem so naughty and sexual. The interest in both lactation and pregnancy has even become a specialty in porn due to the large demand. So, if you’re pregnant and alone, you needn’t be unless it’s just your personal choice. You are a sexual object of desire that is a rare flower that blossoms only a few times in one’s life.

The Ultimate Guide to Pregnant Sex

You’ve just received the happy news that you’re expecting and you’re feeling more connected to your partner than ever. Although those nine months of pregnancy can be a challenging time to be a woman, that doesn’t mean you need to sacrifice time between the sheets. Read on to discover the difficulties you might face during each trimester, and how you can overcome them to experience some of the best sex of your life.

First Trimester Fun

It wasn’t too long ago that you were getting down to business on a regular basis, but now that you’ve got a bun in your oven you might be thinking of sex less often. The first trimester can leave you exhausted and morning sickness can make you feel far from sexy.

Just know that you’re not alone. A waning libido is only natural as your body stops sending signals to pass on your genes. You’re also feeling the maternal urge to protect your tiny offspring. Even if the doctor assures you sex is safe, a mother’s instinct might have you second-guessing hanky-panky.

During the first trimester it’s good to remember that sex doesn’t have to mean intercourse. If you’re not feeling up to going all the way, perhaps you could rediscover the joys of outercourse or even a simple massage. Touching one another and talking about your desires can ensure you stay close to your partner through these challenging months. (Get some tips in Double the Fun! 5 Hot Tips on Self Touch for Two.)

You don’t have to take intercourse off the table though. Sex during pregnancy has plenty of perks, including better sleep and a feelings of wellbeing . Sex during these early months can also be really enjoyable, even if you don’t feel up to it from the outset. Allow yourself to be seduced with an open mind and you might be surprised how much fun you’ll have.

Steam It Up in the Second Trimester

Many women say their second trimester is their favorite part of pregnancy. The fatigue and morning sickness are gone and your libido has returned. Your genitals will also be constantly engorged and lubrication is increased. These changes can make you feel more open to sex and can maximize your enjoyment.

Your changing body can be a bit of a stumbling block though. A baby bump and the extra curves that come with it may take some getting used to, but it’s important to take pride in these changes. Your awesome body is building a baby! (Get some tips on body confidence in 6 Steps That’ll Help You Love Love Love Your Naked Self.)

Urinary tract infections can also curb your sexual activities for a while. Pregnant women are more likely to contract these painful problems, and they can have nasty implications for pregnancy and your sex life. Don’t ignore painful urination or cramps; see a doctor as soon as you notice these symptoms. An untreated UTI can bring on early labor, so it’s crucial that you act quickly.

Connect in the Third Trimester

We hope you enjoyed your second trimester, because the third might be tough. That cute little baby bump has grown so large many women find that it feels impossible to get comfortable. And your estrogen and progesterone levels are at their highest.

This is the perfect time to remember the tactics you used to get through your first trimester. You might not always feel like intercourse, but sex can take many forms. Communicate about how you’re feeling so that you can stay close to your partner, even if you aren’t getting as close physically.

Oh, and with that big bump in the way, it can be difficult to get as close as you might like. Sex might seem daunting, but there are ways to work around your new body shape. Women on top and rear entry positions are ideal. See our article on safe, sizzling sex positions for pregnant women for enough inspiration to spice up this final trimester.

Your bump is also a real reminder that baby is on board, and men can struggle with this. However, doctors insist that no matter how hung your man is, his penis can’t possibly go through the cervix, amniotic sac and placenta. In simple terms, sex is totally safe for the little one (and good for you). For normal pregnancies, sex also won’t cause miscarriages or preterm labor.

And Another Thing

While sex is safe for most pregnant women, those with high-risk pregnancies should exercise caution and consult their doctor if they have any concerns. More important than sex itself is the intimacy this act can foster between new moms and dads. If you can get steamy during this time, go for it. If not, make sure you talk about your feelings and remember to show your affection in other ways. This will help couples deepen their connection with each other before the new addition to the family.

7 Safe, Sizzling Sex Positions for Pregnant Women

Pregnancy is one of the most hormonal times in a woman’s life. You’re up, down, happy, sad, and … horny? Yup, you read that right! Many women experience a nice, big spike in their sex drives when they’re pregnant. Unfortunately, many women and their partners shy away from sex during pregnancy out of fear, or just because they aren’t sure how to work with that big, round belly.

So, what’s a girl to do when she’s hornier than a Viking’s helmet with a bun in the oven? First, she’s got to realize that there are a number of myths surrounding sex during pregnancy, many of which aren’t true. Let’s take a look at a couple of the most common ones.

Having an orgasm during pregnancy can stimulate pre-term labor.

When a woman has an orgasm, her uterus contracts and a hormone called oxytocin, the hormone responsible for triggering labor contractions, is also released. Because of this, it’s no surprise that many people believe that having an orgasm can trigger pre-term labor, or even a miscarriage. Thankfully, this isn’t the case in healthy pregnancies. In fact, because of the increased blood flow in the pelvic region you may even experience better orgasms than ever before. Don’t pass this up! (And get some tips in The No.1 Secret to Female Orgasm.)

A man’s penis can poke the baby’s head.

Um, no. While he’d probably like to believe that his monstrous member is large enough to reach all the way into your uterus, this is an anatomical impossibility. First of all, while he may bump into your cervix from time to time, the cervix is anywhere from 2.5 to 4.5 centimeters thick. Your baby is also protected on all sides by water and amniotic fluid.

Sperm can reach the fetus.

During a healthy pregnancy, the cervix is sealed by a mucus plug, so there’s no way that ejaculate can enter the uterus. In most cases, this plug stays in place until the pregnancy reaches full term and the early stages of labor begin. Even after you lose the mucus plug, it’s still usually considered safe to have sex, since the fetus is still surrounded by the amniotic sac.

Sex during pregnancy can hurt the mother or the baby.

Sex during all stages of pregnancy is usually safe and rather enjoyable for most women. In fact, unless your doctor advises against it, there’s absolutely no reason why you can’t have sex when pregnant. Just don’t try to get too tricky; the baby’s well protected, but a pregnant body is often less nimble and more susceptible to injury.

As the baby bump grows, however, traditional sex positions can become somewhat uncomfortable for the mother or even dangerous for the fetus. This is no time to get ambitious getting into new positions. In fact, the top sex positions for pregnant women are usually the ones that minimize stress on the abdomen, which can help prevent injury and discomfort. The following sex positions are the safest and most comfortable sex positions by expecting mothers and doctors alike. Enjoy!

Any and All (Gentle) Woman on Top Positions

By positioning themselves on top, women can eliminate any pressure on the baby belly. Not only is this much more comfortable for you, but it’s also considered to be a little safer for your baby. As an added bonus, most woman-on-top positions give women more control and easier access to the clitoris. The cowgirl (shown below) and reverse cowgirl positions are the most common woman-on-top positions, but the rocking horse and yogi positions are also great. A well-placed pillow or supportive piece of sex furniture can also help make things more comfortable for both partners.



The spooning position requires that both partners lie on their sides, with the man’s chest against the woman’s back. This way your partner can thrust into you from behind and massage your clitoris with his fingers or a vibrator. Although this position takes the pressure off of your belly, you may want to stash a few pillows under it for extra support.

Doggy Style

Doggy style is one of the most popular sex positions during pregnancy for a number of reasons. First of all, when in a doggy style position, there’s no pressure on your belly. Also, the angle of penetration is better for stimulating the G-spot, and also allows access to the clitoris. However, once your baby belly starts getting bigger, you may find that the weight of your little one hanging down can be a bit much in this position. As an alternative, you can try the leapfrog position, which requires you to support yourself with your forearms on the bed. This will take the weight off your back and enable you to place a few pillows under your belly. As shown below, you can also use props to make sex more comfortable. Feel free to get creative about moving these around as your body and needs change!


The Cross

The cross sex position is great for pregnant women and their partners because it requires very little effort. To get into this position, have your man lie on his side. You can then lie on your back perpendicular to him, with your legs draped over his waist. Keep in mind, though, that if you have a very large belly, you shouldn’t stay in this position for too long, as it can interfere with the flow of blood and nutrients through placenta.

The Tabletop

If you’re looking for a quickie in the kitchen, the tabletop’s the sex position for you! This position requires you to sit on a sturdy, waist-high tabletop or, as shown below, a supportive piece of sex furniture. As your partner thrusts in and out, you can support yourself by leaning back on your arms or wrapping your arms around his neck.



Like the cross, the scissors position requires very little effort on the woman’s part, so it’s a great option if you’re dead tired but still want a romp in the hay. This position requires you to lie on your side and lift your top leg. Your man can then straddle your bottom leg and support you top leg on his shoulder as he thrusts into you. Again, you may also want to place some pillows under your belly for support.

69 Position

Sometimes you may not be able to have sex when pregnant, or you just might not want to. Don’t rule out a steamy session with your lover, though. Consider getting into the 69 position, either on the top or the bottom, whichever makes you more comfortable. An orgasm feels just as good – and sometimes even better – when it’s a product of oral sex.


Get Down With Your Pregnant Self

There’s not need to cut out sex when you’re pregnant. In fact, many women report having some of the best sex of their lives. Chances are you’ve probably already been banned from a few of life’s other great pleasures, such as wine, coffee, some cheeses and even sushi. Isn’t it nice to know that sex isn’t one of them?

Beyonce spotted with a huge baby bump! Some haters brand her as “fat as hell”

Beyonce may be one of the most famous women on this earth, but that doesn’t stop some detractors from slating her appearance at every opportunity.

And now the expectant singer has found her fanbase is loyal to the end, as they’ve been taking down cruel trolls who have branded her “fat”.

In new pictures showing Beyonce – who is pregnant with twins – leaving a showbiz party in Hollywood last night, the singer looks happy and healthy as she smiles at the awaiting paps.

But wait, there’s more!

She’s pregnant! Tennis star Serena Williams shows off her bump!

Serena Williams is pregnant with her first baby.

The tennis star, 35, made the announcement on Wednesday where she showed off her pregnant belly on Snapchat.

Williams wore a yellow swimsuit and said she was 20 weeks along.

The athlete is engaged to Reddit co-founder Alexis Ohanian, 33.

She's pregnant! Tennis star Serena Williams showed off her bump on Wednesday as she revealed is 20 weeks along with her fiance Alexis Ohanian's baby 

20 weeks’ the 35-year-old wrote on her Snapchat along with a photo of her in a yellow monokini.

The lucky guy: The beauty has been engaged to Alexis since December 2016. He proposed with a large diamond ring, which she showed off in January. The couple are pictured last week